Sympathy, Knowledge and Poise

Sympathy, Knowledge and Poise seem to be themany instances of this loss of control. The individual
three ingredients that are most needed in forming thehas Sympathy but not Poise, and therefore his life is
Gentle Man. I place these elements according to theirworthless to himself and to the world.
value. No man is great who does not have SympathyHe symbols inefficiency and not helpfulness. Poise
plus, and the greatness of men can be safely gaugedreveals itself more in voice than it does in words; more
by their sympathies. Sympathy and imagination arein thought than in action; more in atmosphere than in
twin sisters. Your heart must go out to all men, the high,conscious life. It is a spiritual quality, and is felt more
the low, the rich, the poor, the learned, the unlearned,than it is seen. It is not a matter of bodily size, nor of
the good, the bad, the wise and the foolish it isbodily attitude, nor attire, nor of personal comeliness: it
necessary to be one with them all, else you can neveris a state of inward being, and of knowing your cause
comprehend them. Sympathy! it is the touchstone tois just. And so you see it is a great and profound
every secret, the key to all knowledge, the opensubject after all, great in its ramifications, limitless in
sesame of all hearts. Put yourself in the other man'sextent, implying the entire science of right living. I once
place and then you will know why he thinks certainmet a man who was deformed in body and little more
things and does certain deeds. Put yourself in his placethan a dwarf, but who had such Spiritual Gravity such
and your blame will dissolve itself into pity, and yourPoise that to enter a room where he was, was to feel
tears will wipe out the record of his misdeeds. Thehis presence and acknowledge his superiority. To allow
saviors of the world have simply been men withSympathy to waste itself on unworthy objects is to
wondrous sympathy.deplete one's life forces. To conserve is the part of
But Knowledge must go with Sympathy, else thewisdom, and reserve is a necessary element in all
emotions will become maudlin and pity may be wastedgood literature, as well as in everything else.
on a poodle instead of a child; on a field-mouse insteadPoise being the control of our Sympathy and
of a human soul. Knowledge in use is wisdom, andKnowledge, it implies a possession of these attributes,
wisdom implies a sense of values you know a bigfor without having Sympathy and Knowledge you
thing from a little one, a valuable fact from a trivial one.have nothing to control but your physical body. To
Tragedy and comedy are simply questions of value: apractise Poise as a mere gymnastic exercise, or study
little misfit in life makes us laugh, a great one is tragedyin etiquette, is to be self-conscious, stiff, preposterous
and cause for expression of grief.and ridiculous. Those who cut such fantastic tricks
Poise is the strength of body and strength of mind tobefore high heaven as make angels weep, are men
control your Sympathy and your Knowledge. Unlessvoid of Sympathy and Knowledge trying to cultivate
you control your emotions they run over and youPoise. Their science is a mere matter of what to do
stand in the mire. Sympathy must not run riot, or it iswith arms and legs. Poise is a question of spirit
valueless and tokens weakness instead of strength. Incontrolling flesh, heart controlling attitude.
every hospital for nervous disorders are to be found