What to Do After You've Lost The "Big One"

Okay, so you've lost the "big one" - the deal that wasanother dead-end.Did this stop Soichiro? No. He
supposed to put you over the top. The one that wasdecided to start making his own small engines.
supposed to catapult your career to a new level,However, there was one small problem - he had no
separate you from your peers, assure that you gotmoney! So he wrote letters to bicycle shop owners
that promotion or maybe even pay off your mortgage.throughout Japan, explaining his idea to make
Now what?When the rug gets pulled out from undermotorbikes and asking them to invest. With the money
you, the usual reaction is shock and disbelief. After all,that a few of them invested, he started manufacturing
you have been working on this project for whathis own engines and motorbikes. The first motorbikes
seems like forever and thought everything washe made were too big and bulky and very few
perfect. Then, unanticipated forces suddenlyJapanese bought them. Was this another dead
materialized and torpedoed your success. The nextend?No. Soichiro listened to the feedback and
thing you feel is anger. Then come depression andadjusted accordingly. This is what creative persistence
disillusionment.The real challenge comes after youis all about. Soichiro changed his approach. He stripped
cycle through these emotions. You need to decidehis motorbike down and made it much lighter. The new
your next step. What you do from here will determinedesign won the Emperor's Award. In time, this little
whether you are able to bounce back or spiralmotorbike captured 60% of the Japanese market and
downward into more failure and more depression. TheSoichiro began exporting them to Taiwan. In 1948,
decisions you make from here are critical.Now is theSoichiro established the Honda Motor Company, which
time to make these three critical decisions: (1) What tois one of the biggest manufacturers of cars and
focus on; (2) what to believe; and (3) What to expect -motorcycles in the world today.What can you learn
from this point forward.CHOOSE YOUR FOCUSOnefrom Soichiro Honda? True survivors know the
of the most profound and liberating truths discovereddifference between blind persistence and creative
by behavioral scientists and psychiatrists in recentpersistence. What if you say, "But I'm not a very
years is that you can choose what you focus on - nocreative person. I'm out of ideas." Take comfort - there
matter what is going on in the world around you.is no reason to reinvent the wheel. Find people who
Here's an example. Most people don't know that Waltare already succeeding at what you want to do and
Disney suffered a great business defeat early in hislearn their secrets. Read books and articles about the
career. While living and working out of his uncle'slegends in your industry. Get into the minds of these
garage, Walt Disney had created a cartoon charactericons. There is no excuse for blindly stumbling in the
called "Oswald the Lucky Rabbit" and signed adark to find your way. Find and follow the path of
contract with Universal Studios to create animatedthose who have gone before you. If there is a method
short films about the little fury critter that would beor system to their success, then it is capable of being
shown before the main feature film at theaters. Thelearned. If it is capable of being learned, then it is
short films enjoyed great success, but in his youth andcapable of being duplicated. Study it. Duplicate it. Then
naivete, Walt did not realize that he had signed awayimprove upon it.CHOOSE YOUR BELIEFS AND
the rights to the character. When his contract came upEXPECTATIONSThe decisions you make from here
for renewal, Universal Studios refused to renew theare largely dependant on your expectations of the
contract and announced that it owned the exclusiveworld and of yourself. What you are expecting today
rights to produce films using "Oswald The Luckydetermines whether you will or will not be able to see
Rabbit." Walt was devastated.Starting over fromthe possibilities all around you. Those who survive and
scratch, Walt desperately needed to come up with aprosper in the midst of adversity are able to see and
new character. The garage he was living in washear opportunities that no one else can. But how do
infested with rats and mice. Instead of sulking in histhey do it?Psychologists and behavioral scientists have
misery, instead of turning bitter, instead of filing along-known that we tend to see what we're expecting
lawsuit, Walt focused on what he had left - his gifts,to see and filter out what we're not expecting to see.
talents and abilities - and his incredible imagination.For example, if you are looking for the red copy of
Drawing inspiration from his miserable surroundings,The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn,you are not likely
Walt created a cute little mouse character that heto see the bluecopy of The Adventures of
named "Mickey Mouse." And the rest, as they say, isHuckleberry Finnsitting right there on the bookshelf in
history!What can you do when someone or somethingfront of you. Why? Your mind creates a model of the
has pulled the rug out from under you?- First, don't lookuniverse based on your expectations and you tend to
backward at what "could have been."- Second, don'tmake decisions based on that model. What you are
dwell on your anger or it will consume all of theexpecting literally determines what you can and cannot
creative energy and brain cells. These are the samesee. It follows logically, that if you can learn to choose
brain cells that you will need to come up with youryour expectations, you will literally determine what you
next move.- Third, avoid litigation if at all possible. Thecan and cannot see.So what should you choose to
only people who get rich in litigation are the attorneys.-expect from this point forward? First, make a decision
Fourth, focus on the gifts, talents and resources youto write the final chapter in the book of your life. It is
have left.- Fifth, make a firm commitment to start overyour life - after all! Don't let someone else write it for
from where you are.Remember, "they" may takeyou. If you expect that you will have the final say, you
away your office, your status, and your income. Butbrain cells will literally open up and you will be able to
they can't take away your determination to succeed,see opportunities you never saw before.Three days
your inherent abilities, your intelligence or your creativity.after Lance Armstrong was diagnosed with cancer,
These are the very things that have brought you all ofhe boldly declared, "I want you all to know that I intend
your past successes. These gifts, talents and abilitiesto beat this disease, and further, I intend to ride again
haven't gone anywhere. Wherever you go, they areas a professional cyclist." Was he a prophet? Did he
still with you!CHOOSE CREATIVE, NOT BLINDreceive a message in a dream? Did he know
PERSISTENCEPersistence in pursuit of your goal is asomething the rest of the world didn't? The answer is -
good thing - as long as it's the right kind of persistence.none of the above. He simply made a conscious,
Blind persistence is lunacy! Creative persistence isdeliberate choice to believe. This belief is what drove
genius. Persevering against the odds doesn't meanhis expectations. He expected to make a come-back
blindly ignoring the road signs. If something isn't working,because he truly believed he could make a
change it.Soichiro Honda is a classic example ofcome-back - and he did. His beliefs and expectations
creative persistence in action. In 1945, Soichiro wasallowed him to see possibilities that others could not
making piston rings at a small plant in Japan. The plantsee. Likewise, your beliefs and expectations literally
was destroyed by a U.S. air raid along with most ofdetermine whether or not you will be able to see the
the city it was in. But Soichiro was a survivor. Hepossibilities that exist all around you from this point
chose where to put his focus. He collected the metalforward.Take active, conscious control of your focus,
from left over military vehicles and airplanes andyour beliefs and expectations and you will take control
moved to a new city to open a small factory andof your fate and your destiny. These are the three
continued production on a small scale. The end of themost critical choices you can make.Copyright 2005. All
war brought an end to his piston ring productionrights reserved. Daniel R. Castro, author of Critical
business. Even though he survived the war, he couldChoices That Change Lives: How Heroes Turn
not survive the end of the war.At the end of WorldTragedy Into Triumph. To download the first two
War II, Tokyo and most industrial cities had beenchapters free, go to the principles that heroes have
destroyed. Gasoline was rationed and sometimesbeen following for thousands of years to turn tragedy
impossible to find, so he came up with an idea. In 1946,into triumph. Dan Castro is an attorney who spent nine
he took regular bicycles and installed small, militaryyears studying the patterns of people whose critical
surplus engines on them and started selling them. Butchoices turned them into heroes.
he soon ran out of military surplus engines. It looked like