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| It is so important to know how to motivate ourselves in | | | | I have noticed that even when I read something I've |
| an effective manner and in a desirable direction. | | | | written it has more of an impact on me emotionally. |
| Throughout life we continually struggle between the | | | | Not, because I wrote it, but because I'm reading it. The |
| dual forces of what we say and what we do. So, I | | | | power of the written word on our minds is very |
| ask you, what would you pay for a personal formula | | | | motivating. |
| that would turn all your words into action? | | | | The words that you read somehow seem to be more |
| A Kid After My Own Heart! | | | | believable than if someone speaks them. That is not to |
| I was in a mall one day and saw a little child say to his | | | | discount what a well qualified person says, that dude |
| father, "daddy, if you say please, I'll let you carry me". | | | | might be as sharp as a cafeteria meatball; it's just the |
| And, of course the father reached down with a big | | | | way we learned from our childhood. |
| smile and picked up his son. Who could resist? I gave | | | | We believe what we read in books; it's a subconscious |
| some thought to that scene and here are some things | | | | function, until we come across some scatterbrain that's |
| I considered. | | | | full of alphabet soup. When he says something that |
| Could that father have reacted differently? Probably! | | | | completely goes against our personal beliefs or what |
| But the little boy didn't realize it but he went directly to | | | | we know to be true. |
| the source of motivation. Right on the spot that kid | | | | Let her Rip! |
| turned his dad into putty in his hand. | | | | Let's look at some specifics: Let's take a person who |
| I marveled as I watched this little kid motivate his | | | | is bothered by timidity. You already know what I think |
| father. Not motivating himself, but motivating his father. I | | | | of fear; it's about as useful as a yard full of pump |
| think there is a key here. | | | | water. |
| Under His Thumb! | | | | Well, what's the opposite of timidity? Aggressiveness! |
| It was the words the little boy used to get the free ride | | | | So, how can a person with fear motivate himself to |
| he wanted. It's the words we use on ourselves that | | | | round third and head for home? Two ways; first, by |
| get us our free ride or, just another pain in the neck. | | | | repeating as an example, "be aggressive", frequently |
| The little boy could have stomped his foot and | | | | throughout the day. |
| demanded to be picked up. That would probably not | | | | He should do this especially when in a situation that |
| have motivated his father, or, at least motivated him in | | | | causes the fear. And, say "Do it now". Secondly, read |
| the wrong direction. | | | | books and articles that direct his mind in the direction |
| The right words bring motivation, the wrong words | | | | he wants it to go. If the problem area is fear, he will |
| bring resistance. When the right words bring motivation, | | | | want to read self help books about success and |
| they bring confidence. It relaxes our defenses and we | | | | motivation. |
| let our guard down. And then, we stop spending | | | | The words that he reads will make an impression on |
| emotional energy to protect ourselves from possible | | | | his subconscious. That's why I caution people to be |
| failure. Instead we use that energy to reach for the | | | | very careful what they read. |
| probable rewards of success. | | | | You will become what you feed your mind on. The |
| Say it And then Write it! | | | | subconscious is like a sponge. It will soak up anything |
| Anyone who writes a letter affects the subconscious | | | | and everything you feed it. And, it couldn't care less if |
| mind of the person reading it through suggestion. A | | | | you've strayed off the reservation and now stewing in |
| person may not accept your advice when given to | | | | your own juice. |
| them verbally. Many times because the advice does | | | | The Ball's in Your Court! |
| not come over as a sincere suggestion, it comes | | | | So, here is your formula for personal achievement. |
| across as orders. And, then they ball up like a knot. | | | | Read something that inspires you and then, to be |
| At that moment, the timing may be dead wrong for | | | | enthusiastic, ACT enthusiastic. Or, whatever you're |
| the other person to accept what you say emotionally. | | | | attempting to do. A great psychologist once said "if we |
| Perhaps the only thing he can think about at the | | | | act as if we feel in any given way, in time our feelings |
| moment is; he is a day late and a dollar short and your | | | | catch up with our actions". |
| suggestions to him are about as interesting as two | | | | And the action can be physical or it can be mental. A |
| blind men having a conversation in a foreign language. | | | | thought can be stimulating but it's the action that |
| You're trying to philosophize him, and He is facing all | | | | causes the change in behavior from one direction to |
| out war and sees you as slow as molasses in | | | | another. |
| January. | | | | Here are some techniques to help you. When you |
| But, that same person would accept a well written and | | | | repeat an expression that you wish to use in changing |
| sincere letter you write to them with open arms. If | | | | a behavior, say it "loudly." This is particularly important if |
| properly written it would be read over and over, | | | | you are emotionally upset. If you have a fear of |
| studied frequently and digested. Ok, so what's the | | | | something like speaking in public, talk loudly. |
| point? | | | | Talk rapidly. Your mind functions faster when you |
| Here it is. To write a letter you have to think. You have | | | | speak rapidly. Plus, your mind doesn't have time to tell |
| to formulate your ideas and put them on paper. And | | | | you that your doing something you're afraid of |
| when you discover something you're about to write | | | | because you're too busy thinking of the next sentence. |
| stinks, you can back off and change it. And, the things | | | | Emphasize words that are important in the context of |
| you say direct the other person's mind, and your own, | | | | your situation. Example: If you are worried, say |
| in the direction you want it to go. | | | | "PEACE", loudly and rapidly with emphasis to make an |
| Just Call A Spade A Spade! | | | | impression on the subconscious. It will listen and will |
| Example: all these articles, that I write, are words that I | | | | bring about peace to your emotions. |
| share with you in hopes of motivating you. Some | | | | Your Mission In Life! |
| things that I say are controversial and most people | | | | But, most important, and always, Do It Now!! . If you will |
| would not write such things. But, people accept it from | | | | do this, you will prove to yourself that you can |
| me and realize that's just the way I am. They know | | | | motivate yourself to action and create desirable |
| that I love all of you and just trying to help and, I do it | | | | change to any behavior you want. Now, go look in the |
| through my own silly style and backhanded | | | | mirror at that Cheshire-Cat Smile. |